Monday, November 16, 2009

I need to be more thoughtful.

I posted more than I should about my marriage and as a result did further pain to my husband who is trying to change. I wouldn't want all of my dirty laundry aired and even though I didn't mention his name in the last post, you all knew who I was talking about. I'm really imperfect in this area of being wise about the things I say and it contributed to the problems I currently have. I still have many things to learn. Being self-rightous has always been a problem for me too. Hopefully this will help by admitting to everyone my faults. I'm sorry to my spouse as well. I'm still not mentioning his name in case others who don't know us are reading this.

7 comments:

ktpracticeblog said...
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ktpracticeblog said...

Julie,

You do not need to apologize for your own feelings. You have every right to post whatever you want to post on your blog. Granted, very personal information is not a good thing to post, but if you have feelings over certain things going on in your life and would like others to know so they could provide insight...why not? He is not the one that has been hurt and if this is your way healing, then go for it. We love you and support you in this hard time!

Mama Nirvana said...

Julie, please do not apologize. I think you needed to get some things off your chest. Ryan kind of needs to worry about himself right now, and sometimes putting things out there is a good thing. Others learn that they are not alone, as sometimes happens among member families. We only show the good things. We ALL have struggles, with sin and with those that sin against us. I actually thought you were pretty vague in your last post.

Amy

Our Army Life said...

We all make mistakes, but I still think it's important to stand up for yourself. Don't stop speaking out against abuse, too many people keep silent. I think you're doing fine. :o)

Angie said...

I agree with what has been said and I didn't get a chance to share your post with my friend who so desperatley needs to hear what you said. Ya its not nice to air others dirty laundry but if its a way of copeing then you should. I know that my friend needed to hear what you said so if you feel like writing a note to her it would be great. There are so many that are struggling that can learn from those who are in the situation. Keep your head up and dont beat yourself up over this.

Julie said...

Thanks for all of your support. I'm taking a few day's hiatus to sort through my feelings. I will still be against domestic abuse, but I just won't get so personal on the web. Angie, I can still write a note to your friend, but I need some more time to get through finals in 3 weeks. I'm really working on some deep issues and I know that I will do the right thing eventually. I just need time to grow in different areas. I am soooo truly grateful for everyone's support!

Stacys Burp and Urps said...

Hi julie,
So sorry to hear about your and Ryan, but life goes on. We just moved here in November to Highland, brad got new job. YOur kids have grown so much, well at least Tyler, I don't know the others, I just remember Tyler being a baby.Hope this find you well.
Stacy